Defining Failure

“It ain’t about how hard you hit…it’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward.  It is about how much you can take and keep moving forward.” -Sylvester Stallone, Rocky Balboa

Lively friendly debate at work today about defining success and failure.  My argument: until you throw in the towel, you have not truly failed.  His argument: until you hit the desired outcome, you have failed.  What do you think?

Merriem-Webster supports his point:

: the fact of getting or achieving wealth, respect, or fame
: the correct or desired result of an attempt

: lack of success
: one that has failed

My dogged passion about this topic supports my view, however.

To me, to truly succeed, one has to almost seek rejection and failure.  How do you achieve this?  This is how I see it:

Set aside ego.  What others think of you is none of your business.  If what others may think of you is driving you whether or not to pursue your goal or has just failed.  That would be my definition, right there.

Take nothing personally.  The “failure” is not about the person.  We are a whole being with much to offer.  Dunking a basket or delivering a perfect speech is not who neither you nor I are as a person.  Our ability to perform the task or activity is just a piece of the whole self.  In addition, there are always other factors such as timing or maybe the person making the decision is having a terrible day.  Some things we may never know; but our value as a person has not changed.

Learn from each rejection.  These are the times that we are given a huge opportunity to learn.  Ask questions, soak up all the knowledge possible.  If there is a way, find out the “why” behind the “no”.  This isn’t to be used as ammunition against ourselves and our worth.  It is about filtering through the information and identifying ways to improve what we are doing.

Refine and practice.  Now we are armed with new knowledge.. information that wasn’t there previously.  THIS is great news!  Apply it and keep at it: practice, practice, and then practice some more.

Persevere.  This is the test.  “How badly do you want it?”  Do you want it as “bad as you want to breathe?”  If so and this is the fire that burns inside of you, you were just given fuel to feed it.

winston churchill quote

What are your thoughts?  Have I failed to make my case or have I succeeded?

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