Weight Loss: Doing Things Differently

It is the Sunday between Christmas and New Years.. How are we all feeling?

I got fat for Christmas

Oh boy… I can relate!  I am relegated to wearing only sweats and dresses right now..  Even my gym clothes are uncomfortable!!  Well, shoot, let’s be honest.. if I washed my sweats more often, they would probably be uncomfortable too!  haha

I have heard people say.. “I am so ready for January so I can get back on track. Or.. “After the new year, I am going to tighten up and lose weight.”  Or, in my case, “I will be so ready to clean up my diet.. after the Seether/Papa Roach concert in Atlanta.”  Look at that! I somehow bought myself an extra 11 days of eating poorly.  Yippee for me.. And as a result, I have no idea what I am even going to be able to wear by then!  Do boots go with sweats??!!

All joking aside, I “fell off the wagon” this year and I knew this was a slippery slope.  I always felt as if I ever started indulging just a little, I would find it difficult to get back on track.  Well.. my theory has now been confirmed!

I know my formula for getting back on track.  I know exactly how I can get in the best shape of my life.  Here is my secret formula:

1. Follow this eating plan:

Meal #1
1 serving Baked Oatmeal

Meal #2
6 oz. lean meat
½  cup sweet potatoes
1 cup green vegetables

Meal #3
1 can of tuna
¼ cup rice
1 cup green vegetables

Meal #4
6 oz. lean meat
¼ cup rice
1 cup green vegetables

Meal #5 (Pre-workout)
Quest Bar

Meal #6
6 oz. lean meat
1 cup of green vegetables

Casein Protein shake prior to bed

2.  Continue to train 4-5 days per week with added intensity and 10 minutes of pre-workout cardio.

Bam!! There it is.. my plan!  It is pretty simple actually.  So in January, I will just all of the sudden wake up with more willpower than I have on 12/28 because well.. now it is January.  It is a new year and I want to do it.  My desire is strong.. I am tired of wearing sweats and I am ready.  It is as simple as that, isn’t it??  Well.. not really.

Yes, the want has to be there and I have often thought the following.. “If you want it badly enough, you will do it.”  “If it is important to you, you’ll do it.”  “I just need more willpower.. I just need to be stronger.”  “It is actually quite simple, you either do it or you don’t.”

All of which are true and play a role but I am going to ask you to consider a couple of things as well.  Maybe a different way of looking at things this year..

Research shows that the “desire and accomplishment of goals can be inversely correlated”.¹  Meaning that.. sometimes the more important something is to us, the less likely we are to make it happen.  To bring it to fruition.  What??!!  That makes absolutely no sense!  Ahhh, but it does.  Or at least it does to me.  The more I wanted to lose weight, the more important it was for it to happen.. and quickly.  I hated feeling fat.. I hated feeling unattractive and I wanted that to change FAST!  Each perceived failure of not meeting that weight loss goal quickly left me feeling like I failed.  I would feel depressed and hopeless that I couldn’t change.  Which in turn lead to a thought of “Why try? I can’t do it anyway.”

Have you ever set out on this trek to lose weight and “failed”?  I have!!! I shared my story and I shared the story behind the story.  What is still forthcoming is the next chapter with more detail what lead to making the real, more permanent changes.  The ones that matter and lead to a lifestyle change that I have sustained for almost 4 years now.  The same lifestyle I will return to.. following the same plan and thought process that I am going to ask you to consider as you embark on your journey.

What I am asking you to do is Learn.. Learn.. Learn..and then Learn more.

Learn yourself:

Understand that your daily life and routine is made up of a bunch of habits.  Some are so innate, you don’t even know you are doing them.  This is actually a good thing in some ways but when it comes to making changes, it can work as a powerful force against us.  So, realize that you are having to retrain yourself to do things differently and this is inherently difficult.

Set yourself up for success by establishing new habits.. one habit at a time.  I am going to challenge you to just one habit starting in January.. write your food down!  Journal everything you eat!  I know it sounds lame.. especially when you are ready to see result now but give it a shot.  What do you have to lose?  Weight!  You have weight to lose!  🙂  And this is why I propose this habit: A 2009 NIH study showed that one habit, food journaling, created a structure that helped establish other subsequent habits.  That single habit helped people: find patterns that were setting them back: look at the food they were eating differently; and contributed to them adjusting their meals.  Six months later, researchers found that the people who kept a daily food journal lost twice as much weight as the others.²  And that is why, my friends, I will start journaling my food again!

Learn to ask for help:

“What separates those who achieve from those who do not is in direct proportion to one’s ability to ask for help.” -Donald Keough

Donald Keough quote

It is not only okay to admit making a change is difficult but shows wisdom to seek help from the outside.

Dr. Henry Cloud proposes that “self-help is actually an oxymoron.. to think that we are going to be the solution when we are the problem is kinda goofy.”  “Everything we know about a closed system is that it deteriorates and it runs out of energy and it runs out of the ways to do things well.”

Find an accountability buddy.. listen to positive podcasts.. seek out others with have successfully done it.  Seek help in order to create your circle of success.

Learn to believe:

It doesn’t matter how many times you have failed in the past.  Those were just experiments… lessons.  You do have the capability to make changes.. believe it!  A fundamental trait necessary to be successful at making a change is the ability to believe it is possible.  I can’t tell you how many times I have heard people say they “can’t do it”.. “it is genetics”.. “I am just not built that way”, etc.  In their mind, they believe that story.

I am asking you the question: Do you think if you believed that you really could do it.. would you?  I promise if you do believe, you can.  If you don’t quite believe it yourself yet but have the desire.. seek others who have.. seek groups with successful transformation stories.  If you have to look outside what you presently know, then do so.. create your circle of success.

Lastly, learn about food:

Educate yourself about food and nutrition.  One of the most heartbreaking things to see is someone really trying to make this change and not knowing what is setting them back.  Know the food you are eating and what it does for your body and how it can either make or break your goals.

Here are some of my more popular posts on this subject if you would like to read more:
The Food Rant
My 5 Tips for Weight (Fat) Loss
Your Fitness Goal: The Sacrifice



¹Never Go Back by Dr. Henry Cloud

²The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg


  7 comments for “Weight Loss: Doing Things Differently

  1. December 28, 2014 at 9:15 pm

    such impressive story, practical, consistent to achieve and lead to success!

    • December 29, 2014 at 4:18 am

      Thank you for stopping by and I always appreciate your very encouraging comments!! ☺️

  2. leens reloaded
    December 29, 2014 at 12:18 am

    Wow! Super awesome! I’m (re)beginning in the New year as well and its awesome to know that someone is so supportive of creating new habits. I am going to be reading your blog through out the New Year!

    • December 29, 2014 at 4:06 am

      Thank you!! I’m glad you found it worthwhile and I greatly appreciate you reading it.
      Best of luck on your new year’s endeavors. I look forward to hearing about your success. I hope you’ll share!😊

      • leens reloaded
        December 29, 2014 at 10:08 pm

        Of course! And you’re welcome! 🙂

  3. Pattie
    December 29, 2014 at 9:11 am

    Looking forward to the New Year, making some healthy choices and reading your blog 🙂

    • December 29, 2014 at 9:19 am

      Thank you so much! I look forward to seeing your continued transformation. 😃👏👍🌟 You are making some amazing changes and strides. It’s lots of fun to watch!!
      And thank you for all your support.. your “likes”, your comments, your engagement, and your sharing make this even more rewarding and helps me reach more people. THANK YOU!!

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